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Writer's picture Joey Pluto

how to manage friendships through life changes

Managing friendships through life changes can be challenging but also rewarding. Here are some strategies to help maintain and nurture these relationships:


1. Communicate Openly


  • Share Your Changes: Let your friends know about the changes you’re going through. Whether it’s a new job, moving to a new city, or other significant life events, keeping your friends informed helps them understand your situation better.


  • Be Honest: If you’re struggling with maintaining the friendship due to your life changes, it’s okay to express that. Honest conversations can help you both navigate the changes together.


2. Make Time for Friends


  • Schedule Regular Catch-Ups: Even if you're busy, try to set up regular catch-ups. This could be through phone calls, video chats, or even occasional meetups.


  • Be Flexible: Understand that your schedule might not always align perfectly with your friends’. Be open to adjusting plans and finding new ways to connect.





3. Adapt to New Circumstances


  • Embrace New Forms of Connection: If you’ve moved to a different city or have a demanding job, explore new ways to stay in touch, like group chats, social media, or mailing letters.


  • Be Understanding: Recognize that your friends might also be going through changes. Be supportive and understanding of their circumstances as well.


4. Prioritize Quality over Quantity


  • Focus on Meaningful Interactions: It’s not always possible to spend a lot of time with friends, so make the time you do have count by having meaningful conversations and experiences.


  • Strengthen Core Relationships: Invest more in friendships that are most important to you, rather than trying to maintain every single friendship equally.


5. Be Supportive and Understanding


  • Offer Support: When friends are experiencing their own life changes, be there for them. Offering support during their transitions can strengthen your bond.


  • Show Empathy: Understand that changes can be tough for both you and your friends. Showing empathy can help in maintaining a supportive and caring relationship.


6. Be Patient with Yourself and Others


  • Allow for Adjustment Time: Both you and your friends may need time to adjust to new circumstances. Be patient with the process and with each other’s evolving needs.


  • Avoid Guilt: Don’t feel guilty if you can’t always be there for your friends as much as you’d like. Life changes often come with adjustments that take time to balance.





7. Seek Common Interests


  • Find New Shared Activities: Explore new interests or hobbies that you and your friends can enjoy together, even if you’re no longer in the same location or phase of life.


  • Create New Traditions: Establish new ways of connecting that fit your current life situations, such as virtual game nights or regular themed video calls.


8. Reevaluate and Adjust


  • Assess the Friendship: Sometimes, life changes may lead to natural shifts in friendships. It’s okay to reevaluate and adjust your expectations and how you engage with each friend.


  • Embrace Change: Understand that friendships may evolve over time. Embrace these changes as a natural part of life and focus on nurturing the connections that are meaningful to you.


9. Be Proactive


  • Initiate Contact: Don’t wait for your friends to reach out. Take the initiative to contact them and show that you care.


  • Plan Ahead: If you know you’ll be busy or in a different time zone, plan ahead for how you’ll stay in touch, such as scheduling calls or sending updates.


Final Thought


Sometimes your emotions could get the best of you. But! It is always wise to communicate something to close ones. Why? Because sometimes disappearing in someone's

life with no explanation could make them feel some type of way. Try to do your best, so you do not burn bridges with close ones.

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